​The wisdom of my Great Grandmother shared with you. My Great Grandmother Hettie Freemantle used this little phrase and there is great wisdom in it.
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All our connection, collisions and interactions are of great value to us.  The trick is to seek the value within the situation.  

Too quickly we go to self-blame, shame, regret, self-persecution for behaving and reacting as we did.  
That memory and the ramifications of that connection hang like burdens of misery upon our shoulders and we imprison ourselves in our guilt, shame and blame.  We battle to let it go.

There is a good reason for that and we can understand this in a different way.  

The knocking upon the door of our consciousness about the incident is the nudging from our Inner Compass for us to seek resolution.  
For as long as the memory remains unresolved we will feel the nagging of it upon our Heart.
The Heart seeks balance, harmony, grace and integrity and so the burden holds us captive. 
 Meanwhile, we do our best to deflect, deny, distract, detach from the pain and so we allow it to dig deeper into our subconscious Being.  

If we could stop there a moment and take a breath...
If we could allow the idea that perhaps there was some deep good in the hurt, anger, pain and suffering that we are enduring as we carry the burden upon our Heart.

If we could entertain the idea that our Divine Heart is calling us to seek resolution by reminding us that this hurt seeks healing.

And, if we could remember that it is our deeply compassionate Heart that is asking for us to release the pain because it could never let go until we are ready to see our own Divine Heart.

If we could remember that under all the pretending, posturing, pain and performing, our Heart knows what it seeks that is beyond the human performance.

Our Heart is showing us the way Home.

It is our compassionate Heart, that has always been right here in the centre of our Being, that is calling to us to remember. It is BECAUSE we care that we hold the regrets.  It is BECAUSE we are sorry that we know how to heal.

At our Essence we are compassionate Beings of Love and Light.  

Our willingness to feel the massive contrasts of this Life Journey helps us to choose what is Truth.

Then, the Gift is to lovingly agree that we are the very breath of the Divine as we follow our Heart now, free of the contamination of shame, blame, regrets and self-persecution.

It was simply showing us the way, marking the point of pain as our greatest point of growth.